The importance of traveling, communicating and understanding the past versions of you.

Some people specifically call this inner child work, but I struggle to call it inner child work sometimes because it can be to you from six months or a year ago that needs tending to - or that wants to communicate with you. 

 To be super specific and fully clear it's not always the inner child, like the 6 or 7 year old self. 

I do this work all the time with my 1 to 1 clients, and it seems to be that when people come to sit with me for Cacao ceremonies, my most highly requested theme is doing an inner child cacao ceremony. 

But I'm going to share something that is something that I specifically had come to light, in hopes that maybe this reminds you of the importance to do this in your own life. 

I’ve also had clients call this shamanic journeying, trance meditations, etc. I don’t call it any of that but if that’s what helps you understand the concept better than by all means. 

I specifically was journeying to sit with a much younger version of myself, very childlike and young. 

However, who appeared in front of me, was my own lovely and wild 20 year old self from just seven years ago. If you knew that version, god bless hahaha. 

My intention was to sit with the grief and hurt of having to lose so many relationships the last 5 or so years. Some of them were simply friendships, and others were family members that I truly believed would be in my life forever and then, ultimately that not being the case. 

And when that version of me decided to come and step forward that day, I assumed it would be devastating to that version of me to realize all of those people weren’t supportive or understanding in some way shape or form. 

And rather, that version of me was like why is that what you’re focused on? Why aren’t you focused on the life that you’re living now? If this is our life and those people aren’t going to be supportive or help me get there then why would I want them in my life? Just because I thought they were gonna be in my life forever? 

And it was such a jarring experience because it wasn’t a viewpoint that I had really looked at within the last few years. I think so many times along the life journey, especially when you decide to start working on yourself when we lose people that at one point meant a lot to us, it’s devastating. 

But I also think that it’s such an important reminder that if we get to live the life that we truly dreamed of and none of those people make it there with us, then were they really good for our lives when they were in it? Because after the meditation, and while I journaled for weeks about this, I realize there are people that I still have in my life. That not only accept me for who I am and love me and want me to live this life that I’m living, but also when shit hit the fan - they were around. They were understanding, they were willing to support me. 

And so although maybe there are times where I still grieve those other relationships, apparently those relationships were not going to nourish the me of today. 

If you’ve never done any sort of inner child, or inner self journeying, I highly highly recommend it. This is something that I do so often with my one-to-one clients, but of course, this is something that you can do on your own. 

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If you’re looking to be held and guided through experiences like this, of course reach out but regardless of whether you choose to sit with a practitioner, or just yourself for this type of work remember that we do all have a vast world of inner wisdom. And those parts of ourselves from the past, and the ones from the future are willing to talk with us, and share their wisdom. 

It’s just up to us to take a seat and listen.